Disclosure: Post sponsored by Mirum Shopper but all opinions are my own.

Self esteem is one of those things in life that can feel difficult to hold onto or gain. For some it comes and goes, others have it and flaunt it, and some feel like they’ve never had it. For many of us, our self esteem is reflected by who we surrounded ourselves with at a young age. The smallest words can shatter that self esteem or it can build it up.

I’m 36 years old now, but I still remember things people did or said, or even the things I said to myself when I was 15 that shattered my confidence. Some of those things took me years to get over. 

I remember looking at photos like this (I’m the one on the left)  and back then I thought I looked chubby. What? I was around 102 lbs when this photo was taken. My confidence was so rocky that I thought that was unacceptable and I needed to lose weight. 

It really wasn’t until years later, after I had my son and gained several more pounds that I started to feel more confident. My self esteem grew when I cut out toxic people in my life. I surrounded myself with people who loved me for me. I knew I gained each and every pound by bringing a life into this world. Somehow in doing the one thing I was fearful of (gaining weight) I stopped caring what others might view it as and my self esteem soared. Part of that was having people who told me I look great and helping build that self confidence.

I still have moments of doubt, I won’t lie about that. But I distinctly remember one morning I was getting ready for work and nothing seemed to fit right, my hair wouldn’t cooperate and I had a meltdown. I felt ugly. 

My boyfriend heard me and came into the bathroom and hugged me. I finished getting ready and off to work I went, still feeling miserable. About 2 hours later I got a huge bouquet of flowers with a note that simply said “You always look stunning. I Love You” and it turned my day around. Not so much the flowers, but the simple sentence of ‘You Always Look Stunning.’

Sometimes all a person needs to hear (or read) is that someone is proud of them, or that someone is thinking of them. I wish I had that when I was 15, and I wouldn’t have felt so down. I wish I could have said that to myself.

This is why the Dove Self Esteem Project is so important to me, and to other women. Sometimes just the simple act of saying “You’re doing great” or “I’m proud of you” can boost someones self esteem more than you could possibly imagine. Think of all the things you wished someone would say to your younger self, and turn around and say it to someone else – whether you think they need to hear it or not. 

Not a day goes by that I don’t tell my son I love him, I’m proud of him and that he’s incredible. I raised him to respect himself, love himself and to treat those around him as he would want to be treated. I don’t want him to have the same self esteem issues I had, and I don’t want him to give anyone else a reason to have self esteem problems.

To support Dove and their Self Esteem Project, I pick up some Dove products at my local Ralphs during my weekly shopping trips. I love using the Dove Dry Antiperspirant Spray and Foam Wash, plus the boys love the Dove Men+Care line.

Want to join in on this important conversation? Head over to Dove.com/Self-Esteem and share your thoughts.

Author

I’m Lisa, a 36 year old mother of one energetic little boy. I live right outside of San Francisco with my son and my boyfriend. I work full time in an accounting office during the day and as a beauty blogger at night.

18 Comments

  1. Dove Self Esteem project sounds really good. Wonderful the Dove company is doing so much to help and I like to support companies who do that.

  2. Dove seems to really try and do as much as they can to bring up peoples self-esteem and lift everyone up. It is definitely something I do love about them.

  3. Self esteem is so important for young girls nowadays. I have been using DOVE for such a long time. I love that they are promoting self-confidence in girls!!

  4. I have always loved Dove products.

    And I always want my kids to have great self esteem. So far they do, so I’m happy about that. My daughter is in middle school though, so that could change. I hope not!

  5. It’s sad what girls can do to themselves. Where do those messages start? I love Dove products, and the foam sounds amazing.

  6. I would be very happy to help support this cause. Our youth really need help with understanding the importance of self esteem.

  7. Love this project! It’s so important to help influence children’s self esteem for the positive. There are too many things trying to knock them down, but we need to help them be strong and proud of who they are.

  8. I love Dove for having campaign like this. It’s important to help our kids know how amazing they are and as parents we need to encourage them and help build their self-esteem.

  9. I’ve used Dove products for years! I love their self-esteem campaigns too. It’s so hard for young women to have self esteem these days with all the negative influences out there.

  10. Dove has been in our lives since I was very young. I loved how it felt on my skin as I was using it and after I was done using it. I was that “big” girl in school that everyone use to pick on. Since then I’ve gained more confidence and self esteem. I am so glad Dove is helping another generation build their self esteem and confidence.

  11. I love Dove brand, I actually uses their products over the year but what I also love with the brand is that they have so many good initiatives to uplift the people. I hope they continue it and more projects like this in the coming years.

  12. You look beautiful now and then! I want my kids to have a good self esteem. This is a great campaign, I love Dove products.

  13. I’m always pleased to read stories like yours. I had the same problem most of my life. I’m not a skinny girl and I have been so self-conscious. Age has taken most of those feelings away from me now.

  14. I really do enjoy the Dove ad campaigns. I think they really do put their money where their mouth is.

  15. I love this project. I can remember constantly comparing myself to the skinnier, prettier girls and now I look at those old pictures and wonder what in the world I was thinking.

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